Your choices

To my husband

You are the damaged one, you made those unhealthy choices to involve that whore in your life. I know that you bitterly regret any involvement with her and that it was the worst thing you have ever done. But they were your choices.

I will not accept any responsibility for your weakness, the inability to see what you were doing was wrong and also the fact that you felt the flattery and attention from her was what you needed instead of being strong and confronting your issues head on. Of course you have always overlooked the unsexy bits of our relationship, the drudge of shopping, of dealing with the children before and after work, the cooking, laundry..........…..An affair is not real life, you are anaesthetised from reality which is why affairs and the affair partner, no matter how unattractive they may be seems to be compelling. But it is wrong to lose reality of the responsibility that you make to your marriage partner and your family.

You two are responsible for the pain you have caused me.