Confrontation

So I drank my tea and took a shower. I got ready for work - I had a client meeting that morning in the North West.

As I was about to leave the house I said very calmly, that when he got to work that morning, he needed to consider his options with the whore and let me know what his plans were. I had at that stage decided that my marriage was over and that there was no chance I could be with him. I did not want to be involved with a liar and a cheat.

He went white and looked physically nauseous and asked how I knew. I told him about the text message but decided to see how things panned out before I let him know just how much I knew.

He admitted he was having an affair but it was over. It meant nothing, she meant nothing to him, she was just there for sex when he was travelling on business. He wanted me not her and he would do anything to make it right.......................... but why do it if it meant nothing - whats that about? Did she know that she meant nothing to him? Was she so deluded that she thought that a proper realtionship with my husband could be carried out this way - him not wanting to leave his family and her taking whatever crumbs he was willing to toss her way, when it suited him? Does she have s0 little respect for herself that she accepted so little from him?

He went to the office and asked her if she had sent a text (I had deleted it), she confirmed it and he told her that I had found it. She asked what he was going to do, and he replied that he was going to go home that evening, not sure of what he would find. What I find incredulous is that they were both shocked at the fact I had switched on his phone and read the text!!!! What the f*ck!!!!

Looking back at this exchange between them, I wonder now if it was all deliberate, her trying things to manipulate him into making a choice between us - me or her - and that by doing this it would force a situation one way or the other? She was obviously feeling like she had been tossed under a juggernaut, and deserved no less.

He came home - we talked and talked for the whole weekend, and I established that my husband wanted to stay with me wholeheartedly, that he wanted the life we had and that he would do anything, absolutely anything to regain my love and trust. Looking back I naively said that I was optimistic that with a lot of hard work, we had a good chance of reconciling. Having spent 18 months working with him on our marriage I now think that I had no concept of how I would actually feel and the strong and powerful emotions that would be uncovered as he told me the full details of his betrayal.