Although I had known for a long time that he was having some kind of an inappropriate and physical/sexual relationship with her, by being in stealth mode to gather information, it was difficult to confront him with all of the evidence being available as I felt it would have been denied without absolute and undeniable unambiguous evidence – and more than one piece of evidence at that, it is too easy for him to find a half believable reason why something should be so.
Revealing what I knew too early would have resulted in our usual circular conversation with no outcome. He would lie to protect himself and not consider my feelings or the outcome - and I believe it would still continue as long as he thought he was “getting away with it”. I am not sure that even the conversation on the way back from holiday actually registered anything with him – either to finish the affair or that I was on the case. Although when I asked him about that he said it scared him that I was onto something. Usual sort of avoidance answer “we are friends and we get on” is not the answer to “I have an issue with your relationship with her”
His mantra became lie & deny; lie and deny; lie and deny.
I discovered something else about my husband - he is afraid to confront himself. He is a coward.
I need to know everything about this in order to deal with my own devastation......
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