What have I learned?

I was thinking about what I have learned from my experience of infidelity. I am sure that as time moves on there will be more positive learnings (and almost certainly as a result of the programme I am undertaking with my counsellor). But a few things sprung to mind in the last few days about what I learned so far:

That I would find it difficult to trust another human being unconditionally (I reserve unconditional trust for my two children)

Always always always trust my gut instinct - better for the instinct to be wrong, than to banish it completely and then face devastation some time down the track.

That no matter how much you try to understand someone else's problems, if they are not receptive, nothing you do or say matters.

That I lost myself to make someone else happy, and in the end, infidelity was my reward.

That no-one will ever truly have my heart again, that there will always be part of it that won't be invested.

That the very person who promises to look out for you, care for you, nuture you and protect you is often the first person who falters.

I learned that in the effort to make my husband comfortable, I compromised myself.