She's not Me!

I read something the other day that got me thinking about my husband & Jabba the Slut and what drove their behaviour.

It would appear that my husband had feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem. In order that he "felt better" about himself he chose a person that:

He did not have any feelings for her
He could use her at any time without a conscience for her feelings
Who herself had no self respect so could never call him on his behaviour
She temporarily relieved his feelings of insecurity by being inferior to him


She was ugly inside (and out). I know this - bright, attractive, smart, decent women don't need or want married men. They already have their pick of bright, attractive, smart SINGLE men. Married men won't approach these smart attractive women because they know they'll rebuff them. They know these women can do better...so what's left in the available pile are the loser women...women who are so hard up, they'll screw married men and vice versa.

She was an opportunist - like a shop-lifter. She saw a man who had a nice life with his wife, who cared and loved his wife. She wished that she had that. So, she decided to go after him, flatter him and then work on his vulnerability, like a vulture.

She had no problem with her pride, she had her ego-fixing sex with him and wanted a future that she could only ever dream of, because every man she has ever been with realises at some point when they see her for what she really is, that she is not worth investing in. Who she hurts along the way does not matter, She wants what she wants.

She is someone with no boundaries, no morals, no consience or character. Someone with no self respect/ esteem. Truly, someone to take pity upon.