Transparency & Clarity

So, my Husband is going away again on business. To Europe, for 4 days.

He tells me that there are four people going - 3 men and a woman. Immediately I am looking for the "old" language. "The Team", "The Guys".... and I watch him intently as he tells me so that I can sense any discernable habits of old.

I ask who is going and immediately file the womans name in my brain. Something I will, I know be listening out for in future conversations.

He tells me that his flight is leaving at 8am, meaning he will have to leave the house at 4am, so would I mind if he spent the night before at the airport hotel. The others are doing so.

I take a big breath and I say to him that I have no issue with him spending the night before at the hotel, there is only one condition attached. I do not need to tell him what it is. He already knows. But I do tell him so that it isn't an unspoken thing between us, leading to conjecture and doubts later. Clarity and Transparency are all too important in this journey.

He holds me and tells me that he understands.